Dating…this post has been a long time in the making. I probably write it in my head 1-2 times a week. I just don’t know how much to share. In dating it’s not just me there is always another person involved. So, while some things may seem funny to myself they are often at the expense of the other person. Also, previous blog posts have not been so light hearted. I believe a blog is meant to document parts of my life. My previous posts have done so and now this is documenting what I’m currently thinking so while they might not seem to run smoothly together they do reflect my life which often seems fragmented and like pieces of a puzzle that don’t quite fit together but you cram them together anyway because you are honestly sick of trying to find the right piece. Yep, that sums up my dating life.
Let me start out with some dating “tid bits”. I use eHarmony for most of my dating experiences. After meeting Jonathon on this site, I had no problem sharing how we had met because he was such an awesome guy…we had as many know the perfect dating experience the first few months. Then the last six months happened and I don’t really want to get into that and if anyone is reading this chances are very likely that I know you and you know the lifetime movie that is “JonandWendysdatinghistory”. I don’t know why I have that in quotes or without spaces. Anyway, e-Harmony…Internet dating is not the "scary meet someone 500 miles away leave your husband of 20 years to marry the porn star" scenario that it used to be. It’s actually quite commonplace among the singles of today especially if you are trying to date someone of similar faith; as I am attempting to do.
Here are some dating don’ts:
Don’t text and date…. similar consequences to texting and driving. You think you’re ok then you suddenly end up upside down in a ditch. Texting takes the place of actually talking to someone…as in having a conversation…over the phone. You can text till you’re hearts desire without actually saying anything OR you can say things you would never feel comfortable saying to someone in person or even in a phone conversation. IF you are not comfortable saying things in person or in a phone conversation then you need to man up or not say said things. Texting is not like talking on the phone. The other person has the choice to respond quickly or not…that sucks. It sucks to both wait for a text and it sucks to get yelled at for not responding quickly enough to a text. You know how to avoid that situation? Talk to people on the phone. Don’t text and date.
Texting is also a way of keeping someone waiting in the wings while you’re seeing if this other person you just met might turn up to be a better dating partner. You no longer need to call people when you date you just have to send them a text 1-2 times a week to keep them around. I get that you will date other people. I’m cool with that. I’m 31…I’ve chosen to date other people. I just like to be up front about it. I’m honest in dating. If I don’t like you I’ll probably let you know. Actually my face is pretty expressive you’ll probably be able to tell without me saying anything. I’ll end there…there may be more…
